El ejercicio de las tres cosas buenas

 Antes de irte a la cama intenta pensar en tres cosas buenas que te han pasado o que has visto durante el día. Pueden ser cosas muy simples como un bello atardecer, una persona anónima cantando por la calle o una comida que te ha gustado... o cosas más profundas/difíciles como recibir unas palabras de sincero agradecimiento, perdonar a una persona que nos hirió en el pasado o resolver un problema complejo. 

Ahora vamos a hacer un análisis de estas cosas buenas a nivel emocional y a nivel físico....

A nivel emocional intentamos ver cómo nos hace sentir esa cosa buena... Identificamos los detalles de la emoción... nos sentimos orgullosos? en paz? nos entran ganas de sonreir? Te sientes arropado, alegre, reconfortado, seguro? Busca cada una de esas sensaciones al evocar la memoria de ese recuerdo. Céntrate en cómo hace desaparecer la tensión y disminuir tu nivel de ansiedad.

Por último concéntrate en las reacciones que provoca ese recuerdo a nivel físico... Te sientes más liger@? Visualiza en tu cerebro la liberación de endorfinas y la activación de los receptores a nivel neuronal. Siente cómo tus neuronas aprenden o re-aprenden un nuevo comportamiento. Añade este conjunto de reacciones biológicas a tu lista de patrones cotidianos. Algo que podemos repetir en cualquier momento.

Cuando repitas este ejercicio regularmente, ya no verás extraña la emoción de la alegría, sino que será una más en tu biblioteca de emociones. 

(Photo by Bekka Mongeau: https://www.pexels.com/photo/white-printer-paper-22221/)

Monologue about being a woman from Barbie movie

It is literally impossible to be a woman. You are so beautiful, and so smart, and it kills me that you don´t think you´re good enough. Like, we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we´re always doing it wrong.

You have to be thin, but not too thin. And you can never say you want to be thin. You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin. You have to have money, but you can't ask for money because that's crass. You have to be a boss, but you can't be mean. You have to lead, but you can't squash other people's ideas. You're supposed to love being a mother, but don't talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to be a career woman but also always be looking out for other people.

You have to answer for men's bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you're accused of complaining. You're supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women because you're supposed to be a part of the sisterhood.

But always stand out and always be grateful. But never forget that the system is rigged. So find a way to acknowledge that but also always be grateful.

You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It's too hard! It's too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you! And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault.

I'm just so tired of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us.